So here it is… though I have been putting this off for days … How in the world did we get to a place where delicious fried chicken gets mixed up in a “biblical definition of the family unit” that creates a controversy with the LGBT community? That, as they say, is a long and twisted path. But I think it boils down to one thing that is pretty simple… When we don’t respond as Jesus responds/responded… we lose – or maybe it’s more accurate to say we don’t win.
So first… what did Jesus say about homosexuality? Well, there’s nothing recorded about Him speaking directly about it or Him being asked about that Mosaic law. But He had this really curious habit of pointing to any “law” and saying something that would infuriate the person who was holding it in front of His face. For instance, “You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you, ‘Anyone who looks on a woman for the purpose of lust, in his heart has committed adultery already.’” Matthew 5:27, 28. Convicting for anyone? … Yeah. He was awesome at that.
SO where does the fried chicken enter the picture? Here is the link to the original article posted on BRNow.org about Dan Cathy and Chick-Fil-A. If you don’t want to read the whole article – here is the quote that got everyone all up in arms… both supporters and detractors:
Some have opposed the company’s support of the traditional family. “Well, guilty as charged,” said Cathy when asked about this opposition. “We are very much supportive of the family – the biblical definition of the family unit. We are a family-owned business, a family-led business, and we are married to our first wives. We give God thanks for that. “We operate as a family business … our restaurants are typically led by families – some are single. We want to do anything we possibly can to strengthen families. We are very much committed to that,” Cathy emphasized. “We intend to stay the course. We know that it might not be popular with everyone, but thank the Lord, we live in a country where we can share our values and operate on biblical principles.”
First of all – to say this makes Dan Cathy a hate-monger is crazy. I believe he is a good man and has a big heart for people and has a love for God and His Word.
But I wonder, if Jesus had been interviewed by the Biblical Recorder (a Baptist magazine from North Carolina), how would he have responded in a similar interview? Thinking about Matthew 5:27, 28 would Jesus have felt compelled to defend the “biblical definition of marriage” or could His response have sounded more like this?
Some have opposed the Bible’s support of the traditional family. “Well… I wonder if members of the LGBT community are really opposed to traditional families or if they just don’t feel loved by my followers and instead they feel attacked? My good friend Paul said it beautifully in 2 Timothy 2:23-25 – and that’s how I really want you to interact with everyone – gently… Leave the sorting out to my Father. And I thought I made myself pretty clear on an early morning a couple thousand years ago with a group of religious leaders who wanted to stone a woman… for sinning … how I want all of you to deal with sin. Interestingly, as I remember it, the religious leaders were the only ones to get publicly shamed that day. The woman and I were left alone – just her and her sin … and me… The way it should be… and we had a quiet conversation in private… and she knew I cared about her. By the way… when I said to those guys ‘Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her.’ – I was the only one there who could have… But like I always say… sin is sin is sin… if I was gonna start stoning people for sin – let’s just say my work would never have been finished. Thank Dad for grace and mercy and un-ending love.”
So I wonder – are we just not as good at answering questions as Jesus was? Well of course not…He was Jesus… but He left us all the models and the examples He wanted us to follow. The pharisees were always trying to goad him into answering their questions… because they wanted to use His words against Him. But it wasn’t just them… His own disciples wasted tons of time asking Him the wrong questions. They were all missing golden opportunities. It really isn’t rocket science. If we spend all our time defining the Law and pointing out what violates it are we really, really, really following in His footsteps? Footsteps filled with love and grace and mercy? Are we called to judge? Are we called to accuse? Are we called to scare people straight?
So is the LGBT community really destroying our “biblical definition of the family unit”? I guess a parallel question could be, “Are fast food chains that sell primarily fatty, deep fried foods destroying the biblical definition of our bodies as temples?” Nahh. I think that is what personal accountability is for. If you really see that someone is living outside of God’s calling – go develop a relationship with that person and allow them to see Jesus in you. Show them that you care about them more than you do about their sin.The reality is – that for each of us we will ALL answer to God one day… for all sorts of stuff. The Bible is very good at helping each of us identify where we fall short daily… whether it is sexual sin of all sorts or over eating or gossiping or … well you get the picture.
I think Jesus always says it best – so I leave with you His words… check them out:
Matthew 22:36-40 and Matthew 7:21-23 … Amen.